Can you give me tips on how to stop being such a loser?

Question by just a girl: Can you give me tips on how to stop being such a loser?
A couple of years ago I was really quite popular in my town eg. people would come up to me at parties to talk to me randomly or ask for my cell phone number, people told me how they desired my clothes, I would get lots of friend requests on social and people generally looked up to me for all the things I did in the community and at school.

However over the past two years, I literally lost most of my friends – for the sake of doing lots of extra-cirricular activities, school studying and because I was super competitive in both these areas.

Coming into this year I have realized I do not need to sacrifice social life which should never be neglected in any persons life – especially a teenagers. So I am trying to get back to my old ways while trying to remain balanced with school and other activities.

I feel as though there are several barriers stopping me and I am looking for tips for how I can get over these:
-my over competitive attitude
-my nerdy bahaviour eg. talking about topics my friends arent interested in.
-my negative attitude to life somethings
-always being tired
-stubborn and demanding
-most of my friends are boys and people mistaken this for being a slutty behavior
etc.
There are some good things about me too! (my opinion) 🙂 good fashion sense, good at meeting new people (however struggle to create a proper relationship), interested in lots of different things

No negative comments! This is just who I am, I enjoy having lots of friends and I want to set myself up for varsity next year!

Best answer:

Answer by .
people might just be busier. serious. world doesn’t revolve around you.

if you’re worried about creating meaningful relationships, then plan something and schedule it in. make gal dates or whatever. worry less; things you need to get done, will still get done. saying you’re competitive in other areas in your life is just an excuse. people have busy lives and maintain bonds just fine.

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